Everywhere we look there is a new fad to follow. This is no longer a fact of life that’s reserved for teenagers and young adults. Because of the popularity of social media, this is now a fact of life for adults and business owners around the world.
It is very tempting to believe everything that you see on social media. According to social media, everyone from your ex-cousin-in-law to the guy who bullied you in the fifth grade has a successful, almost perfect life and every business owner you see is raking in the dough because their business is just that awesome.
So, what do you do? You try to imitate what you see or, at least, give the appearance of doing so. I’m not talking about the creepy, stalker imitation that we see in the movies – which requires one to have some major crazy genes floating around in their gene pool. I’m talking about trying to model your business or your life after others because you perceive it to be an easy or sure fire way to success and happiness.
As a little girl, like most little girls, I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do with my life. One month I wanted to train horses, the next I wanted to train dolphins or be an oceanographer (probably not a good idea when you’re terrified of water). But, as I got older, probably around the age of 10, there were two things that I knew.
- I wanted to write.
- I wanted to help others.
Around that time, I wrote in my journal that I wanted to be a psychologist so I could help people understand themselves. Well, life didn’t take me down that path, but that desire in me never went away. So, a few years ago when I decided to become a life coach, I was only tapping into that same desire to help people that started long ago. It’s simply a part of who I am and although I had never really heard of a life coach back then, after researching it, I knew it was right for me.
After getting certified as a life coach, I decided I wanted more than a certification, so I decided to get a Master’s Degree that focused on life coaching skills because I wanted to be the best at what I was doing. When I felt finally ready to leap out there and start helping people, I realized that everyone was doing the same thing. On social media, everyone was a coach. And, even though I had all the training and education that I needed to do it my way, before you know it, I was pulled into the soiree of doing things just like everyone else. Thank God I realized the error of my actions.
It didn’t take me long to remember that God gave me gifts and talents that are not like anyone else’s, just as he gave each of us unique talents. Along with our gifts and talents, we have been given the ability to use them in our own unique way. This is why trying to be like someone else usually doesn’t end well. Doing so is virtually impossible to sustain.
It’s perfectly okay to do things in a way that has never been done before. It’s okay to write a new manual on how to get that thing done that only you can do. Others will follow you and maybe they’ll tweak your manual and add their own twists. To me, this is the natural flow of things. There is enough success to go around for all of us. But we can only get there on our own unique path. Modeling your life after someone else’s will lead to disappointment and you undoubtedly will miss out on experiences and opportunities that were meant for only you to have.
Do yourself a favor, ignore the latest trends and instead, be a trendsetter. Be yourself no matter what anyone else thinks of it and no matter how quirky or corny it may seem to others. And, don’t do it so that you will have adoring followers who want to be just like you. Set the trend for breaking trends so that those who have the pleasure of coming across your path will know that it is okay for them to do the same. I truly believe that you can only truly give your very best to the world when it truly is your best and not someone else’s that’s been imitated. Be true to yourself – and the rest will follow. Contact me for a coaching service if you need help getting in touch with your true self.
Diathe Garnes- The Uplifting Woman