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Blocks to Your Happiness Part 2: Demotivation

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Hopefully, you have already read the introduction to my discussion on how our bodies often give us warning signs that there is a spiritual, emotional or psychological block that may be affecting us. If not, click the link to check out the first two articles, Find Personal and Professional Peace by Identifying Your Bodies Warning Signals of Blocks Affecting Your Happiness and Blocks to Your Happiness Part 1: Refusal to Forgive.

My definition for demotivation is not being able (for some reason) to fully commit yourself to an act, even though you may want to and may have done so in the past.  When I decided to write my book, She’s About Business: A Business Guide for the Woman Who Needs a Little Know How and A lot of Motivation to Start Her Business, I was inspired because I realized how many women never get their businesses off the ground because they are demotivated. Motivation is a key component to just about everything you’ll ever want to accomplish in your life. From starting a business, to making a marriage or relationship work, without being motivated to take action, most attempts will fail.

We’ve all felt the sting of demotivation before and nothing can kill a plan like having a motivational block. The tricky part of dealing with a lack or loss of motivation is understanding what is causing it. Each time our bodies give us the warning signals (procrastination, decreased productivity, lack of confidence, loss of interest in work that you used to love, don’t care attitude) that we are feeling demotivated, we automatically think that the cause is the same as it was the last time we felt demotivated. The truth is, there are many different causes of demotivation and if you don’t understand and address each cause with the proper strategy, it will be difficult for you to move forward. Here are just a few of the top causes of demotivation and strategies to help you overcome them.

Causes of Demotivation

Fear. This is a big one. Whether it’s fear of success or fear of failure, fear can stop you in your tracks each and every time it rears its ugly head. Although most of us know the dangers of living in fear, it can still be difficult to know when fear is demotivating us. Again, our bodies show us the signs, we just have to listen. Often, when we are fearful of a situation, we will do other small things that lead up to the big thing, but find excuses not to take that final step. An example of this is picking a business name, registering it and even filing for a business license but never actually opening the business.

To overcome demotivating fear, it’s a good idea to sit down and actually write out why you are afraid and figure out which fears are actually worthy of concern and which ones are based on your imagination. Then, dismiss the imaginary ones and find solutions for the ones that are worthy of concern. For instance, if your fear is not being good enough at your trade to open your business, and your concern is a valid one, then take a class or read books on the subject until you are comfortable with your level of knowledge.

Grieving or Sorrow from a loss. For various reasons, many people don’t like admitting that they are grieving. When there is denial about grief or sorrow, there is not an opportunity to heal it. Unattended to, grief can become demotivating. Grief isn’t only about the death of a loved one. Grief can be due to the loss of a relationship, job, way of life or idea that was held in high regard.
Many people suffer grief when they let go of a lifelong dream that they have held onto, but that now seems more evident to be out of reach because of their life choices or situations. This leads them to become demotivated to do anything more.

To overcome demotivation grief or sorrow, you have to allow yourself the time to heal. The healing process actually takes a lot of work both mentally and physically so, take good care of your body during this time, making sleep, plenty of water and eating right priorities. Counseling may also be necessary to deal with this type of grief. If you are a believer, it is also a good idea to get in touch with your spiritual self and connect with God to seek His guidance and support. Keep a journal and keep track of your feelings paying close attention to the days you feel your worse and the days when you feel your best. Make note of the underlying thoughts or events that triggered your mood. And lastly, find someone who you can talk to who won’t judge but who will be honest with you. Again, a counselor may work as a sounding board or a close friend or relative.

Not being clear about what you truly want. We often mix up what we truly want with what others want for us or for themselves. Have you ever looked to someone else who has been successful at something and tried to emulate their process? That’s not a bad idea, but the danger is that we can often lose site of the way that is best for us in our effort to reproduce something that was meant for someone else. Sure you may want something similar, but the way of getting there could be totally different. You can become demotivated by trying to do something simply because it’s a good idea or because it worked for someone else, but is not something that you actually want to do.

To overcome being demotivated by not being clear about what you truly want, simply be honest with yourself and everyone else about your true desires for your life or business. Don’t try to be something that you’re not. Articulate want you want very clearly and actually put it in writing. Study it and make sure that it remains in line with where you want to go. It’s okay to tweak it from time to time as long as it remains true to what you want at any given period. Realize that this is your story and you can write it differently than anyone else’s. I believe that when we are truly honest about what we want, we are closest to our true purpose.
  

 

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Blocks to Your Happiness Part 1: Refusal to Forgive

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Hopefully, you have already read the introduction to my discussion on how our bodies often give us warning signs that there is a spiritual, emotional or psychological block that may be affecting us. If not, click the purple link to check out the intro article, Find Personal and Professional Peace by Identifying Your Bodies Warning Signals of Blocks Affecting Your Happiness.

Refusal to forgive. I love talking about forgiveness because I know first hand the dangers of a refusal to forgive and want to help as many people as possible avoid them. I used to be really good at not forgiving and therefore, for a long time I remained stuck in a position where insurmountable blocks kept me from living the life that I wanted. Choosing not to forgive comes with many negative side effects and stressors that we should all want to avoid. But, what exactly does it mean to forgive? Many people don’t understand it let alone really understand how to do it.

“Psychologists generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness” (Forgiveness Definition, 2015). Forgiveness isn’t some magical thing that happens simply because we say the words, “I forgive you”. Unlike many would lead you to believe, a willingness to forgive doesn’t make us automatically forget what happened either. Forgiveness is a conscious choice that we make to simply let go of negative feelings and emotions and open a door for new ones to enter into that space in regards to a person or group of people.

Just like it’s important to understand what forgiveness is, it’s also important to understand what it’s not. How many times have you had someone whom you have forgiven, do a whole new thing to hurt you yet again? When you call them out on the new thing, they accuse you of not having forgiven them for the first thing. It’s actually quite laughably really but many of us fall for it. “You haven’t truly forgiven me if you haven’t forgotten it” they say. They may even accuse you of being a hypocrite and question your values and morals as a person, which can cause you to be even more confused about forgiveness. Well, this is a form of manipulation on their part and once you truly understand forgiveness you will never fall for it again. You may choose to forgive the same person over and over again but it doesn’t mean that you are to excuse or downplay the next offense. Forgiveness also does not mean that you have to continue on with this person in your life at all. Regardless of how hard they try to convince you that your walking away means that you have not forgiven them, some people are just not meant to be in your life especially if they are not willing to do better and be better themselves. Remember, most people who go around constantly hurting others are masters at manipulation and keeping a person like this in your life will constantly bring you pain.

How Refusal to Forgive Hurts You

When you don’t forgive, it causes all kinds of turmoil in your life that can lead to many blocks to your happiness and success. There are physical, spiritual, emotional, and social warning signals that your body gives to let you know that you are dealing with unforgiveness. Many people suffer from high blood pressure (of course there are many other factors for this disease), loss of faith in God and people, sadness or depression and multiple broken relationships all because of a refusal to forgive. Other warning signals are being angry all the time for unknown reasons, feeling like the world is against you and isolating  yourself from friends and family. If you see the signs that unforgiveness is blocking your blessings and your peace, take action now before it’s too late! Most of us were not taught how to forgive but not only does God say that it’s possible to live the life of a forgiver, but He says that we should do it and I believe that He gives us the strength to walk in forgiveness each day. Trust me, I know that forgiving isn’t always easy, but many of the victims of unforgiveness often turn to substance abuse and other harmful habits to deal with the side effects. So, at least making an attempt at forgiving is so much easier than allowing your symptoms to take you down a dark road. Forgiveness is like many other things in life, the more you do it, the easier it gets.

 

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Forgiveness Definition. (2015). Retrieved from http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/topic/forgiveness/definition

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Find Personal and Professional Peace by Identifying Your Bodies Warning Signals of Blocks Affecting Your Happiness

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So many people face personal and professional blocks and spend most of their lives feeling like there must be something wrong with them since they cannot seem to get over the hurdles they face, even though they know they are there. Whether you refer to those periods in life when the road blocks seem to be insurmountable as depression, the blues, down in the dumps, a funk or any one of the numerous synonyms that work, it’s clear that women often face times like this more often than men. I’ve faced more than my share of these moments in my life and know first hand how devastating it can be to seriously think that something is just plain wrong with you and to feel powerless to fix it.

Research suggests that women in particular experience many more hormonal changes throughout their lives than do men due to things such as childbirth, premenstrual syndrome, menstruation, contraceptive drugs, postpartum period, and menopause, just to name a few. The truth is, as women we have many moments in life when it can be very easy to fall into a slump and unfortunately, many women never find their way out.

One of the reasons that I decided to obtain my Master’s Degree in Counseling with an emphasis in Life Coaching, after I was already a certified life coach, is because I really wanted to understand not only the spiritual side to helping women break these barriers, but also the emotional and psychological. One of the key things that I’ve learned is that our bodies have ways of letting us know when there is something wrong with us spiritually, emotionally and psychologically. Many of the warning signals that our bodies give off can be interpreted incorrectly and often go ignored. Incorrectly interpreting or simply ignoring the bodies signals can often lead to depression and an overall sense that something is off.

The good news in all of this is that it is possible to find the peace that you’re looking for and happiness both personally and professionally once you learn how to correctly identify the signals that your body gives to warn of spiritual, emotional and psychological blocks. For the purposes of keeping this article short and easy to digest, I’d like to touch on two particular blocks that many women face, a refusal or inability to forgive and demotivation in separate articles. The links for those articles are below.

Blocks to Your Happiness- Part 1: Refusal to Forgive: http://upliftingwoman.com/2015/12/03/blocks-to-your-happiness-part-1-refusal-to-forgive/

Blocks to Your Happiness- Part 2: Demotivation: http://upliftingwoman.com/2015/12/03/blocks-to-your-happiness-part-2-demotivation-2/

 

 

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7 Words of Wisdom To My Younger Self

ID-10063253If time machines really did exist and you could go back in time and talk to your younger self, what things would you warn the younger you NOT to do? What things would you insistently encourage your younger self TO do?

Oh, if only we would have known what we should have done we could have done it better (I totally just made that up). When we reflect back on our mistakes and our accomplishments, it’s important to remember to count them all as useful experiences that make us who we are, good or bad.  Still, if only we knew then what we know now…

I asked myself what were the top words of wisdom that I would pass on to my younger self to make her journey a little less dramatic and a lot more peaceful. The list was too long for one article, so I decided to narrow it down to my top seven.

The cool thing about experience is that even though we can’t go back and give the wisdoms that we’ve learned to ourselves, we can pass them on to our children and others. After you read my list, create your own and see just how far you’ve come.

7 Words of Wisdom To My Younger Self

  1. Put God first in all that you do: I heard this term all the time growing up but had no idea how to apply it to my life. I would tell mini me to take the time to really understand what it is to apply this principle to her life early on. Putting Him first means that you will also be seeking His will for all that you do. By doing this, there is a better opportunity to ensure that your earliest big decisions are guided by Him. Everyone makes mistakes, but knowing this doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t try to avoid as many as we can; especially big ones.
  2. Learn to forgive fast: As a coach, I come in contact with many people whose issues are directly tied to an inability to forgive. I believe that many feelings of anger, hatred, bitterness and suffering are all tied to issues of un-forgiveness that have not been addressed. Honestly, even the most spiritually strong often have trouble mastering this forgiveness thing. Even after many revelations about the importance of forgiveness and writing books about the issue, it’s still a struggle for me and I constantly have to check myself regarding it. Now, I try to forgive as soon as possible. Learning to consistently forgive takes work, practice and application time and time again, but the rewards of mastering forgiveness are life transforming. If I could go back in time and get my younger self to learn this concept a lot earlier in life, I could have avoided countless amounts of bitterness and pain.
  3. Saving yourself for marriage is not old fashion and can save you much heartache: I don’t know why more parents don’t teach their children this principal. Maybe it’s because the world says that it’s no longer necessary.  Or, maybe it’s because many parents feel that it would be hypocritical because they didn’t follow this principle themselves. It’s not hypocritical at all though to learn from your mistakes and admit to your child that you fell short in certain areas but don’t want them to make the same mistakes.  I would explain to my younger self that even though she wasn’t taught this, she should know that she is worthy of this honor and that if a man is the right one for her he will know that she is worth waiting for. Don’t conform to what society says is acceptable on this or any other issue.
  4. Pursue your dreams hard early on when there are no obligations to restrict you: Start pursuing your dreams before marriage and children come into the picture. Pursing your dreams as hard as possible early on reduces the chances that you’ll have regrets about not doing so later. This will also ensure that when you are a wife and a mother, you will have the ability and the time to commit fully to your family because your career/goals will already be in place.
  5. Don’t get sidetracked by people, actions, jobs etc… that are only meant to distract you from your true purpose: This one can be difficult because figuring out which things are distractions can be tough. But, if you are putting God first in your life and are in tune with your purpose (even if you don’t have it exactly figured out you should still be pursuing some dream or goal) and pursuing it steadfastly, it will be easier for you to see things that are not in God’s will and that are distracting you from your goals, dreams and purpose. It’s really important to learn to use discernment when it comes to this, which leads me to number 6.
  6. Follow your gut. We’re all wired to use our instincts and discernment on some level to keep us from harm. Many times it’s easier to turn our instincts off than to listen to them. This is especially true when it concerns things we want to do, even when deep down we know we shouldn’t be doing them.
  7. Don’t use being young as an excuse for being stupid. I made so many mistakes that others said every young person must make. After a while, I begin to excuse every stupid thing that I did simply because I was told that it was acceptable since I was young and had to learn things on my own. It’s true that there are plenty of tough lessons that we all had to learn the hard way in order to become who we are meant to be. On the other hand, there are others that we walked mindlessly into simply because we were young at the time and gave in to the notion that it’s okay for young people to behave in a reckless manner.  I’d tell my younger self that there is no age requirement for wisdom. If something looks, sounds or feels stupid then it probably is.

 

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What Happens When We Refuse To Move?

ID-10087374There comes a time in every situation or relationship where we have to make a choice to change or take some type of action. Many times we feel the need for action deep down inside of us, but for various reasons, we often refuse to move. Maybe we’re afraid of change, afraid of starting over, afraid of being alone or afraid of failing (I could go on forever listing the things that we humans are afraid of but I should stop here).  We make every excuse we can think of to stay put, but what happens when we stubbornly refuse to move? 

It’s my belief that that nagging feeling that urges us to move is God and often our own spirits, which are usually more in tune with God’s will for us than we are. The urgency is a warning, much like the fight or flight response, it’s our bodies way of letting us know that there is danger ahead if we stay. Have you ever been in a relationship and you had opportunities to get out but you just were not ready to let it go, even though you felt deeply that you should? Finally, the relationship ended with you being devastated or hurt in a way that would not have happened had you gotten out sooner. Or, what about the job that you knew was not for you? Maybe you stayed there at the detriment of your mental, physical or spiritual health or your family or relationships. Finally, you were forced out in a way that you would have preferred to avoid.

So, what does happen when we refuse to move? Usually, we end up flat on our faces. The good news though is that God is merciful and gracious enough to always have a plan B for the times when we don’t follow His plan A. And furthermore, because He is God and we are not, His plan B, C and even D will always be better than the plan we have for ourselves without Him. And don’t worry; even when we end up flat on our faces He has a recovery plan in mind. Hopefully, we will ultimately get to a place where we learn to listen to the urging and MOVE regardless of how afraid we are! What things do you need to move on or from today? 

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Breaking Barriers For a Better Life 

ID-100234057The difficulties of accomplishing goals or making positive changes in lifestyle, thinking or overall behavior can many times be traced back to unique barriers that we all face that make it all the more difficult to make the changes we desire in our lives. As a life coach, my desire is to help others break down the barriers that have prevented them from living the lives that they dream of. This task isn’t always easy but if successful, the effort will be well worth it.

We all have an ideal life that we can see so vividly in our mind. It can often feel like this ideal life is impossible to achieve and that our dreams will always elude us. I mean, let’s be honest, no life is perfect, but identifying barriers that have previously kept you stuck in old mindsets can help you live a life that is greatly improved. Perfection is a matter of perspective anyway.  What’s more important than chasing a perfect life, is pursuing a life where one is strong enough mentally, physically and spiritually to attempt to achieve any dream and to knock downJul any obstacle standing in their way.

For instance, is fear of rejection a barrier that applies to you? What about a lack of self-confidence or self-motivation? Once your barriers have been identified the next step is creating realistic strategies and solutions to overcome them. Remember, anything in life that doesn’t grow dies. One cannot grow with barriers and obstacles blocking their path and keeping the sunlight from shining through. A brighter tomorrow is possible so, start today by taking the first step toward the life you’ve always dreamed of. Are you ready to soar to new heights? Visit www.barrierbreakingcoaching.com to find out how I can help!

 

 

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When Saying Goodbye Is Hard, But Necessary

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What do we do when saying goodbye to that thing that is no longer serving us is hard, but necessary for our progress? I use the word thing, but it could actually be a person, a job, a habit, a location etc… that needs to be in our rear view mirror. Why don’t’ we listen immediately to that still small voice that tells us it’s time? I was just telling someone recently, that for me it often takes me getting to a point where I’m down right miserable in the situation and so have no choice but to finally listen to that inner voice.

I believe that the still small voice that whispers to us is God’s spirit speaking to ours. Maybe our uncertainty in being able to fully discern God’s voice from our own or others is what keeps us from moving immediately. It can be extremely difficult to let go of something that we love or are comfortable with, even if it’s no longer good for us. Maybe it’s the dreaded, fear rearing its ugly head and putting its two cents in. Either way, when things become unbearable it forces us into action like a ninja racing into battle.

What does it take for you? Are you hardheaded like me and so have to be made miserable before you truly listen, or is there something else that is your motivator? What things keep you from listening to the voice from within that whispers, it’s time to say goodbye?  Is it fear or uncertainty, or is there something else that keeps you frozen in place when it’s time to say goodbye to the old and move on to something better?

I’d love to hear your comments and stories about a time when you had a hard time saying goodbye to something, even though you knew deep inside it was time. What caused you to hold on and what finally motivated you to move forward?

 

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How to Create a Vision Board: Take Action to Visualize the Life You Want

vision-board-2014-crossfit-round-rock-1024x768Creating a vision board (aka inspiration board) is a great way to bring your ideal life out of your head and onto a board for the whole world (or your inner circle) to see. Women’s groups everywhere use this fun, quick activity to motivate their women to take action and become inspired. Think of a vision board as a showing of your hopes and goals through pictures. What you do after you create your board is up to you, but hopefully you will take action to make your vision a reality.

As you can see from the example above, you don’t have to be an artist to create a simple but attractive vision board. Remember, the point of doing the board is for you to display it in a place that will keep your vision in the forefront of your mind.

Tools You’ll Use:

  • A poster or cork board
  • Old magazines
  • Markers, pens or paint if you want to be real fancy with your board
  • Scissors
  • Glue sticks, tape or thumbtacks or pins for cork boards
  • Relaxing Music or motivational recording
  • Creativity and an open mind

What You’ll Do:

Step 1:

Be honest about what you want in your life. Make a list of things you want to add to your board. Make sure to include the most important areas of your life. Give yourself one to two hours to complete your board. Make it a relaxing treat, not something that you rush through.

Step 2:

Put on your favorite uplifting, or relaxing music. Motivational recordings that have inspired you are also great. Find your favorite sermon or speech and set it on repeat.

Step 3:

Cut the images that resonate with your vision for your life from the magazines and paste or pin them to your board. Be creative and remember that it’s your vision and you can do it anyway you like. You have complete control. Add your favorite quotes or personal credo to your board (this is optional). Make sure that the words on your board have the power to motivate you on those days when you feel like letting go of your vision.

Step 4:

Display your board proudly in a place where you can see it often. Your board is a piece of art so don’t be afraid to dress it up a bit with a frame or to make it a focal point in a room.

Step 5:

One vision at a time, create goals that will get you closer to the life you want. Before you know it, you will be living out the complete vision for your life. Happy Vision Boarding!

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Allow God to be the GPS of Your Life

ID-100221495I honestly don’t know how I got anywhere before I had a GPS. Now that I have one, I am fearless when it comes to taking trips to unknown locations or taking new routes to familiar places. It’s amazing that so many of us trust wholeheartedly in these little devices that are far from perfect. These man-made devices are error prone and have been responsible for me finding myself at quite a few dead ends and wrong turns in my life, yet I continue to trust them on journey after journey.

Why is it so easy for us to trust in flawed technology, but so difficult for us to trust in a flawless creator? When I was creating ideas for my Christian T-shirt line, I created a shirt that used the acronym , GPS (GOD. PERSONAL. SAVIOR). The acronym worked perfectly, but there was so much more that I could say about God as our GPS that couldn’t fit on a T-Shirt.

This concept sounds good in theory, but you may be wondering what your life would look like if you wholeheartedly allowed God to be the GPS, guiding you in every aspect. Here are a few of the rewards that you will reap after making the choice.

  • You will understand the difference between religion and relationship. I’ve heard so many people say that they are not religious and mean it as an indication of their lack of trust in or dependence on God. Many times, people who say this believe in God but don’t really interact with Him because of poor experiences or ideas about religion. What they fail to realize is that trust and dependence on God is based solely on a relationship with Him and not religion. Going to church and learning doctrines, practices and church etiquette will do nothing to help you allow God to be the GPS of your life without a relationship with Him. When you make the commitment to allow God to be your GPS, it must include one-on-one time to communicate with and get to know Him for yourself. This can be done through prayer and reading God’s Word and other teachings to help you better understand His Word. Once you have a relationship with God you will want to accept His guidance more and more each day.
  • You will begin to recognize God’s voice in your life. Being able to discern when God is speaking to you is one of the best parts about allowing Him to guide your life. God doesn’t often speak in an audible voice but that still small voice that speaks from His spirit to ours and that can be heard as if it were a thought comes often… and is often ignored. How many times has there been something that said slow down a moment before you were pulled over and given a speeding ticket? How many times did you have a thought that that person was not right for you but you continued dating them until devastation and heartbreak stopped you in your tracks? We often call these thoughts intuition or “a feeling,” but when you commit to making God the GPS of your life, you’ll recognize them as so much more.
  • You will be hungry for righteousness. At some point in life, most of us have heard of or read the Ten Commandments, yet they are not necessarily easy to keep. When God is the GPS of your life, you’ll understand that being obedient is just another way to show love and honor to Him, in the same way that any parent would want to be loved and honored by obedient children. Many times, attempting to obey rules such as the Commandments or any of the guidelines found in the Bible is done out of a sense of fear. Many of us were taught or learned through our own understanding that if we didn’t obey the rules, there would be punishment, but were never taught that the guidelines were set as a way to keep us from harm and not as a means to control. God’s rules for living do not prevent us from using our free will, but when God is truly your GPS, your will is connected to His. When this happens doing what’s right becomes a way of life. Although mistakes will still be made, you will have a heart of repentance when they are, so it will be easier to recover from them and get back on the right track.

As I mentioned before, God is a gentleman so He never forces us to do anything. You have free will to choose your GPS. Whether we know it or not, we are all guided by something. Imagine your life with the things mentioned above as well as the other numerous benefits not mentioned here that come from having God your GPS and then decide what is right for you.

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From Failure to Success – From Homeless to Radio Hero

Cathy-Hughes-Corp-Pic-2-229x300In light of Black History month, I gave a lot of thought to all the uplifting African-American women who have paved the way for women of all races and from all backgrounds. There were so many women to pick from whose stories are the epitome of overcoming failures to go on to great success. Women like Oprah, Michelle Obama, Coretta Scott King and Maya Angelou (just to name a few) have all done so much to uplift and empower others, but I didn’t want to select someone who would normally be the first thought on a list of inspirational, empowering African American women.

Although Cathy Hughes is well known for her accomplishments, many of us may not know as much about her as we do about some of the above-mentioned women.

Cathy Hughes’ life has been full with great success but also great failures and setbacks. Now known for revolutionizing urban radio, her love for radio began while living in the projects after her mother gave her a transistor radio at the age of 8. Cathy went on to become a teenaged mother and college drop out. At one point she even suffered the pain of losing everything and relied on staying with family members and living with her young son, out of her radio station.

After her mother kicked her out of the house when she discovered Cathy was pregnant at the age of 16, Cathy was forced to “take life seriously” and she made a promise to herself that her son would not become a statistic. She worked in radio for 11 years before purchasing a radio station with her husband in 1980. The couple separated shortly after and the business fell apart, causing Hughes to lose her home.

Although things looked bleak, Hughes still had her radio station and she refused to give up on her business. Determined to turn things around, she and her son slept on the floor of the station as she continued to push and work hard at the business. Eventually, she would change her life and the lives of the millions who would go on to listen to her radio stations and watch her television programming. Hughes says she didn’t realize that she had been homeless until someone had used the word years later when discussing her past troubles.

Since then, Radio One has grown to include over 50 radio stations in the U.S. and TVOne, a successful cable network. Now, in her 60’s Cathy Hughes is a testament to women everywhere who may be going through a rough time at any stage of their lives. If you remain focused, do what you love and refuse to give up, even when it seems like you’ve lost it all, things will turn around.

 

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Article Cited: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/08/17/catherine-hughes-radio-one_n_1798129.html