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Paying the Price of Being Authentically You

Authentic Black WomanThere are many people walking around us today who have no idea who they really are. They’ve spent their whole lives trying to be some thing, some body that would be acceptable to those around them. It all started for them when they were children and just as the real them was beginning to form and grow almost ready to emerge as the person that God intended for them to be in that moment, someone around them told them that some part of them was not good enough or was not normal enough. And so, because children are very amazing, adaptable beings. They begin to change. And before you know it changing to conform to what was acceptable or good to others had become a way of life for them. They do it for so long that one day, they wake up and realize that they have no idea who they are!

How do I know all this? Well because, up until about 4 years ago, that was me. A fear of rejection caused me to become an amazing chameleon. Able to fit in and be who those around me expected or wanted me to be. Because I felt the sting of rejection as a child, I was willing to do just about anything to avoid feeling it again. Most everyone has dealt with a fear in their lives. Some very common ones are a fear of rejection, a fear of failing, a fear of being alone, a fear of not having money, a fear of success, or a fear of being too exposed or transparent. If you identify what your fear is, you can probably look back over your life and see how it has caused you to be different than you really want to be. Different than you were meant to be. For years I would envision myself a certain way but I was too afraid to really be that person because I didn’t want to lose the people who were in my life. I mean, after all they seemed to accept and love me that way and at that time that was all I was looking for.

But, regardless of how much I feared the rejection of those around me, there was this aching inside of me that wouldn’t quit. That aching lead me to begin seeking a better way. As my search grew stronger, as I read more, learned more, wrote more, I begin to change. I started to become more of ME. But, it wasn’t easy and, there was a price to pay! People who I just knew were with me for life starting dropping off. Apparently, they couldn’t handle the new me. She was too spiritual and had too many grand ideas about what she wanted to achieve and she made them uncomfortable because accepting the her would mean they would have to consider making changes too. Many of them left me devastated and I questioned whether it was even worth it all. I ended up experiencing the very thing I feared the most, rejection, but still, I kept seeking. Through what I believe was divine intervention, I begin to meet people who would mentor me and teach me and coach me. And for the first time, I not only begin to know the real me, but I accepted her and I wanted to know more about her.

Today, I’m constantly checking in with myself to make sure that the things that I’m doing and saying are authentic. Every once in a while the answer is no because I’ve fallen back into my old habit of conforming and people pleasing. When that happens, I know that it’s time for me to change some things up, maybe even let some things or people go. And guess what, I’m totally ok with that.

I want to encourage you today to be authentically you in all that you do. Look at individual areas of your life and ask yourself are you being totally honest and showing up as who you really want to be in that area. If the answer is yes, great, but if it’s no, change some things up until the true you is represented in all areas of your life. Don’t be embarrassed to get help from a coach or find yourself a mentor. When it’s all said and done, becoming who you were meant to be may mean paying the price of facing the very thing that you feared the most. But believe me, having the courage to be who you want to be, live where you want to live, say what you want to say…is worth the cost!

 

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How to Overcome that “I Hate My Life” Feeling

 

I hate my lifeMany of us have had that moment where we look in the mirror and we don’t like what we see—both on the inside and the outside. Somehow, our life isn’t what we wanted it to be. We aren’t living up to our full potential. We’ve lost that spark in ourselves, and we don’t know how to get it back.

If you’ve spiraled down into a depression or you just feel like you’re in a rut, there is a way to get out. Here are some ideas that you should consider. Remember, it’s a combination of little things that make a big difference.

  1. Start exercising – Even just a brisk 20 minute walk a day can make you feel more energized, help clear your mind, and even reduce your risk of heart attack and diabetes! And if you do more exercise, the health benefits increase.
  1. Get a hobby – What makes you happy? Did you like to paint when you were younger? Or maybe you always wanted to learn how to sew. Or maybe you want to try starting a garden. What’s stopping you from doing those things now? Spending a little time doing a hobby each week can help you feel better about all the time you spend working or running errands or trying to keep up with your kids. Search for groups in your area that do something you would like to do. Many craft stores offer art classes, or you could set up a group yourself. Chances are you have people in your life that would like to do something out of the ordinary.
  1. Take a class – Look for community colleges in your area. Most offer continuing education for adults who are interested in continuing their education, but maybe not in getting a new degree. You can sign up for a night class that meets once a week. Or you could do a seminar class that is only one or two days long. It’s up to you! Personally, I joined a community orchestra (I used to play in high school) and a community choir. It cost less than $50 each class, and I absolutely love getting to play my viola and sing each week. I’ve met a bunch of cool people from my area, too.
  1. Volunteer – A great way to help you put your own situation in perspective is by helping the less fortunate. There are many organizations all over the country that would love more volunteers. If you like animals, contact your local SPCA and see what you can do to help. If you want to work with your hands, try Habitat for Humanity. The library or local schools could use help, too. Working for a good cause is a major mood booster because you make a difference in the lives of others.
  1. Meditate and/or pray for clarity so that you can truly understand why you feel like you hate your life. Once you have an answer or answers set strategic goals to address each thing that you’ve identified as being the root of your feelings. Then, one-by-one, make a plan to achieve each goal. Before you know it, you will have created a life that’s not so easy to hate.

These are just a few tips to get you started. Feel free to share your own ideas in the comments and if you know of anyone who may be feeling this way, send them to our site!

 

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How to Get Past a Betrayal Using One Simple Question

sad womanA good friend of mine is going through a tough time concerning the girl he loves. They were best friends for a year before he decided to tell her that he wanted to be in a real relationship with her. Then she dropped a bomb on his heart: not only was she bisexual (which she had never shared with him), but she also had a girlfriend and had been with her for the majority of her friendship with him.

My friend was devastated, hurt, and angry for two major reasons: First, after he had shared so many personal things with her, she hadn’t trusted him with a huge part of her life: her sexuality. He had other gay friends, so it wasn’t like he wouldn’t have supported her. Why had she kept this secret from him? She was supposed to be his closest friend. And second, why had she never told him about her girlfriend? They had done some physical things together—not sex yet, but enough to qualify as cheating for sure. Her girlfriend didn’t know about him, either, his friend confessed. She also said that she didn’t know what to do—she loved her girlfriend and didn’t plan on breaking up with her, but in a way she loved him, too.

After he finished telling me the whole story, he said that he’s still trying to be her friend and hang out with her, but she sends him mixed signals. She basically acts the same as she did before: she’s still touchy-feely with him, she acts like she wants to be more than his friend, etc. Yet now she flaunts her girlfriend in front of him. My friend goes through periods of intense anger and intense sadness. He wishes he could just erase the fact that he ever met this girl.

I hated to see my friend so torn up. He’s like a younger brother to me. I don’t claim to be any good at giving relationship advice, but I’ve been through enough to feel like I’ve learned something essential in getting over a betrayal.

I told him that he needs to ask himself this question: What will it take to make this right for me? His answer was that finding a way to forgive her and move on was what he felt would make the situation right for him. Once he figured out a way to do that, he would be ready to let the situation go. Answering that one question gave him the information he needed to get to where he wanted to be, which was out of that situation.

About a week later, he came back and told me that he’d done what I said. He decided that in his heart he wanted to forgive her, but she had never said she was sorry that she hurt him or even asked him for forgiveness. It was as if she only felt sorry that HE was upset—not sorry for what SHE actually did. She really didn’t seem to feel any remorse for the way she’d treated him OR her girlfriend (who was still unaware of everything going on). When he confronted her, she told him that she couldn’t do what he was asking because she just didn’t feel the way he wanted her to. So he employed my second piece of advice: he told her that he was taking a step back from the situation and that he didn’t want to talk to her or spend time with her for a while.

While he is still taking things one day at a time, he said that he feels relieved that they are no longer trying to be friends. He doesn’t want to be on that rollercoaster of emotions anymore. We talked about the fact that he told her the truth about how he felt and what he wanted from her, but in the end he could only control his own actions. Since she wasn’t willing to meet him halfway, he needed to be the bigger person and let their relationship go. He now understands that forgiving her is what’s best for him and so he is able to go on.

The one simple question tactic doesn’t just apply to romantic relationships. I’ve used it with friends and even family members. It is vital to look inside yourself and really figure out the root of your pain. Answering this question often allows you to see the root by identifying the remedy or solution. If the solution is unrealistic, then you need to distance yourself from the person or situation that hurt you. Unfortunately, people are often not willing to change or admit that they did something wrong. You can’t control what they do, but you CAN control what you do. By focusing on that, you can choose to move forward. Chances are there are already people and situations in your life ready to fill the void that is created when you leave the negative behind.

So, the next time you’re faced with a betrayal ask yourself the question, What will it take to make this right for me? Listen to the answer and then determine the best way to make it happen. With an open heart and a willingness to do what may not be easy, it works every time.

By Lauren Raines & Diathe Garnes for Uplifting Woman

 

 

 

 

 

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Creating a Real, Fresh Start In the New Year

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It happens every year. The New Year brings with it reflections on the familiar, past year and resolutions for the unknown, new year. I mean, that’s what life is all about right? Every living thing is propelled by the notion of a new beginning-a fresh start. Many animals hibernate and take a well deserved rest after long seasons where their survival often hung in the balance, only to awake later, refreshed and ready to do it all over again, hopefully better than before. Plants obligingly die or trade their bright leaves and blossoms for the dull, withered remnants of their former glory with the hope that the next seasons blooms will be brighter and bolder than before.

For human beings, we look to the periods in our lives where there can be a change in direction, thought or action that can lead us to the new beginning that all of nature seeks. Unfortunately for us, new beginnings don’t mean that the mistakes of yesterday magically vanish or that we can’t still feel the sting from past pains. But, fortunately for us the reflections that come during those periods often lead us to want to be, do and think better. Looking back over missed opportunities lead us to want to dream bigger, try harder even if we fail and be more impactful.

To heck with resolutions. They don’t work because they are often made out of a desire to change something about ourselves that didn’t come from our hearts and that only includes superficial change. For instance, loosing weight or doing better with finances are great resolutions to make. But, often there are other more deeply rooted changes that we need to make in order to take these resolutions from shallow goals to realities.

So, I have some questions for you. What is it that you can do this year to truly make this a fresh start? What changes has your heart been telling you it was time to make? Which ones can you fully commit to? What things can you do for yourself, your family or your business that simply can’t wait any longer? If you died tomorrow, what things would you regret not doing the most? What changes will be most impactful in getting you on the path to being about the business of change and progress in 2016?

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Blocks to Your Happiness Part 2: Demotivation

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Hopefully, you have already read the introduction to my discussion on how our bodies often give us warning signs that there is a spiritual, emotional or psychological block that may be affecting us. If not, click the link to check out the first two articles, Find Personal and Professional Peace by Identifying Your Bodies Warning Signals of Blocks Affecting Your Happiness and Blocks to Your Happiness Part 1: Refusal to Forgive.

My definition for demotivation is not being able (for some reason) to fully commit yourself to an act, even though you may want to and may have done so in the past.  When I decided to write my book, She’s About Business: A Business Guide for the Woman Who Needs a Little Know How and A lot of Motivation to Start Her Business, I was inspired because I realized how many women never get their businesses off the ground because they are demotivated. Motivation is a key component to just about everything you’ll ever want to accomplish in your life. From starting a business, to making a marriage or relationship work, without being motivated to take action, most attempts will fail.

We’ve all felt the sting of demotivation before and nothing can kill a plan like having a motivational block. The tricky part of dealing with a lack or loss of motivation is understanding what is causing it. Each time our bodies give us the warning signals (procrastination, decreased productivity, lack of confidence, loss of interest in work that you used to love, don’t care attitude) that we are feeling demotivated, we automatically think that the cause is the same as it was the last time we felt demotivated. The truth is, there are many different causes of demotivation and if you don’t understand and address each cause with the proper strategy, it will be difficult for you to move forward. Here are just a few of the top causes of demotivation and strategies to help you overcome them.

Causes of Demotivation

Fear. This is a big one. Whether it’s fear of success or fear of failure, fear can stop you in your tracks each and every time it rears its ugly head. Although most of us know the dangers of living in fear, it can still be difficult to know when fear is demotivating us. Again, our bodies show us the signs, we just have to listen. Often, when we are fearful of a situation, we will do other small things that lead up to the big thing, but find excuses not to take that final step. An example of this is picking a business name, registering it and even filing for a business license but never actually opening the business.

To overcome demotivating fear, it’s a good idea to sit down and actually write out why you are afraid and figure out which fears are actually worthy of concern and which ones are based on your imagination. Then, dismiss the imaginary ones and find solutions for the ones that are worthy of concern. For instance, if your fear is not being good enough at your trade to open your business, and your concern is a valid one, then take a class or read books on the subject until you are comfortable with your level of knowledge.

Grieving or Sorrow from a loss. For various reasons, many people don’t like admitting that they are grieving. When there is denial about grief or sorrow, there is not an opportunity to heal it. Unattended to, grief can become demotivating. Grief isn’t only about the death of a loved one. Grief can be due to the loss of a relationship, job, way of life or idea that was held in high regard.
Many people suffer grief when they let go of a lifelong dream that they have held onto, but that now seems more evident to be out of reach because of their life choices or situations. This leads them to become demotivated to do anything more.

To overcome demotivation grief or sorrow, you have to allow yourself the time to heal. The healing process actually takes a lot of work both mentally and physically so, take good care of your body during this time, making sleep, plenty of water and eating right priorities. Counseling may also be necessary to deal with this type of grief. If you are a believer, it is also a good idea to get in touch with your spiritual self and connect with God to seek His guidance and support. Keep a journal and keep track of your feelings paying close attention to the days you feel your worse and the days when you feel your best. Make note of the underlying thoughts or events that triggered your mood. And lastly, find someone who you can talk to who won’t judge but who will be honest with you. Again, a counselor may work as a sounding board or a close friend or relative.

Not being clear about what you truly want. We often mix up what we truly want with what others want for us or for themselves. Have you ever looked to someone else who has been successful at something and tried to emulate their process? That’s not a bad idea, but the danger is that we can often lose site of the way that is best for us in our effort to reproduce something that was meant for someone else. Sure you may want something similar, but the way of getting there could be totally different. You can become demotivated by trying to do something simply because it’s a good idea or because it worked for someone else, but is not something that you actually want to do.

To overcome being demotivated by not being clear about what you truly want, simply be honest with yourself and everyone else about your true desires for your life or business. Don’t try to be something that you’re not. Articulate want you want very clearly and actually put it in writing. Study it and make sure that it remains in line with where you want to go. It’s okay to tweak it from time to time as long as it remains true to what you want at any given period. Realize that this is your story and you can write it differently than anyone else’s. I believe that when we are truly honest about what we want, we are closest to our true purpose.
  

 

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Blocks to Your Happiness Part 1: Refusal to Forgive

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Hopefully, you have already read the introduction to my discussion on how our bodies often give us warning signs that there is a spiritual, emotional or psychological block that may be affecting us. If not, click the purple link to check out the intro article, Find Personal and Professional Peace by Identifying Your Bodies Warning Signals of Blocks Affecting Your Happiness.

Refusal to forgive. I love talking about forgiveness because I know first hand the dangers of a refusal to forgive and want to help as many people as possible avoid them. I used to be really good at not forgiving and therefore, for a long time I remained stuck in a position where insurmountable blocks kept me from living the life that I wanted. Choosing not to forgive comes with many negative side effects and stressors that we should all want to avoid. But, what exactly does it mean to forgive? Many people don’t understand it let alone really understand how to do it.

“Psychologists generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness” (Forgiveness Definition, 2015). Forgiveness isn’t some magical thing that happens simply because we say the words, “I forgive you”. Unlike many would lead you to believe, a willingness to forgive doesn’t make us automatically forget what happened either. Forgiveness is a conscious choice that we make to simply let go of negative feelings and emotions and open a door for new ones to enter into that space in regards to a person or group of people.

Just like it’s important to understand what forgiveness is, it’s also important to understand what it’s not. How many times have you had someone whom you have forgiven, do a whole new thing to hurt you yet again? When you call them out on the new thing, they accuse you of not having forgiven them for the first thing. It’s actually quite laughably really but many of us fall for it. “You haven’t truly forgiven me if you haven’t forgotten it” they say. They may even accuse you of being a hypocrite and question your values and morals as a person, which can cause you to be even more confused about forgiveness. Well, this is a form of manipulation on their part and once you truly understand forgiveness you will never fall for it again. You may choose to forgive the same person over and over again but it doesn’t mean that you are to excuse or downplay the next offense. Forgiveness also does not mean that you have to continue on with this person in your life at all. Regardless of how hard they try to convince you that your walking away means that you have not forgiven them, some people are just not meant to be in your life especially if they are not willing to do better and be better themselves. Remember, most people who go around constantly hurting others are masters at manipulation and keeping a person like this in your life will constantly bring you pain.

How Refusal to Forgive Hurts You

When you don’t forgive, it causes all kinds of turmoil in your life that can lead to many blocks to your happiness and success. There are physical, spiritual, emotional, and social warning signals that your body gives to let you know that you are dealing with unforgiveness. Many people suffer from high blood pressure (of course there are many other factors for this disease), loss of faith in God and people, sadness or depression and multiple broken relationships all because of a refusal to forgive. Other warning signals are being angry all the time for unknown reasons, feeling like the world is against you and isolating  yourself from friends and family. If you see the signs that unforgiveness is blocking your blessings and your peace, take action now before it’s too late! Most of us were not taught how to forgive but not only does God say that it’s possible to live the life of a forgiver, but He says that we should do it and I believe that He gives us the strength to walk in forgiveness each day. Trust me, I know that forgiving isn’t always easy, but many of the victims of unforgiveness often turn to substance abuse and other harmful habits to deal with the side effects. So, at least making an attempt at forgiving is so much easier than allowing your symptoms to take you down a dark road. Forgiveness is like many other things in life, the more you do it, the easier it gets.

 

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Forgiveness Definition. (2015). Retrieved from http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/topic/forgiveness/definition

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Find Personal and Professional Peace by Identifying Your Bodies Warning Signals of Blocks Affecting Your Happiness

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So many people face personal and professional blocks and spend most of their lives feeling like there must be something wrong with them since they cannot seem to get over the hurdles they face, even though they know they are there. Whether you refer to those periods in life when the road blocks seem to be insurmountable as depression, the blues, down in the dumps, a funk or any one of the numerous synonyms that work, it’s clear that women often face times like this more often than men. I’ve faced more than my share of these moments in my life and know first hand how devastating it can be to seriously think that something is just plain wrong with you and to feel powerless to fix it.

Research suggests that women in particular experience many more hormonal changes throughout their lives than do men due to things such as childbirth, premenstrual syndrome, menstruation, contraceptive drugs, postpartum period, and menopause, just to name a few. The truth is, as women we have many moments in life when it can be very easy to fall into a slump and unfortunately, many women never find their way out.

One of the reasons that I decided to obtain my Master’s Degree in Counseling with an emphasis in Life Coaching, after I was already a certified life coach, is because I really wanted to understand not only the spiritual side to helping women break these barriers, but also the emotional and psychological. One of the key things that I’ve learned is that our bodies have ways of letting us know when there is something wrong with us spiritually, emotionally and psychologically. Many of the warning signals that our bodies give off can be interpreted incorrectly and often go ignored. Incorrectly interpreting or simply ignoring the bodies signals can often lead to depression and an overall sense that something is off.

The good news in all of this is that it is possible to find the peace that you’re looking for and happiness both personally and professionally once you learn how to correctly identify the signals that your body gives to warn of spiritual, emotional and psychological blocks. For the purposes of keeping this article short and easy to digest, I’d like to touch on two particular blocks that many women face, a refusal or inability to forgive and demotivation in separate articles. The links for those articles are below.

Blocks to Your Happiness- Part 1: Refusal to Forgive: http://upliftingwoman.com/2015/12/03/blocks-to-your-happiness-part-1-refusal-to-forgive/

Blocks to Your Happiness- Part 2: Demotivation: http://upliftingwoman.com/2015/12/03/blocks-to-your-happiness-part-2-demotivation-2/

 

 

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Breaking Barriers For a Better Life 

ID-100234057The difficulties of accomplishing goals or making positive changes in lifestyle, thinking or overall behavior can many times be traced back to unique barriers that we all face that make it all the more difficult to make the changes we desire in our lives. As a life coach, my desire is to help others break down the barriers that have prevented them from living the lives that they dream of. This task isn’t always easy but if successful, the effort will be well worth it.

We all have an ideal life that we can see so vividly in our mind. It can often feel like this ideal life is impossible to achieve and that our dreams will always elude us. I mean, let’s be honest, no life is perfect, but identifying barriers that have previously kept you stuck in old mindsets can help you live a life that is greatly improved. Perfection is a matter of perspective anyway.  What’s more important than chasing a perfect life, is pursuing a life where one is strong enough mentally, physically and spiritually to attempt to achieve any dream and to knock downJul any obstacle standing in their way.

For instance, is fear of rejection a barrier that applies to you? What about a lack of self-confidence or self-motivation? Once your barriers have been identified the next step is creating realistic strategies and solutions to overcome them. Remember, anything in life that doesn’t grow dies. One cannot grow with barriers and obstacles blocking their path and keeping the sunlight from shining through. A brighter tomorrow is possible so, start today by taking the first step toward the life you’ve always dreamed of. Are you ready to soar to new heights? Visit www.barrierbreakingcoaching.com to find out how I can help!

 

 

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Motherhood and Success, the Perfect Partners: You Don’t Have to Choose Just One

Mother and workingWhich is more important, your career or your kids? Dumb question right? There are very few parents who would say that their career was more important than their kids. As a matter of fact, that’s the whole point of this article. It is a dumb question, with the answer almost always being the same, so why is that form of questioning even a factor in so many conversations today in regard to working women who are mothers?

This type of questioning often leaves mothers feeling guilty about perusing a career. I believe that motherhood and a successful career are perfect partners. I mean, what better way to show your kids how to be successful at something than by doing it right before their little eyes?

If you are in this situation and you find yourself struggling with juggling both, don’t get discouraged. The fact that you have children is even more reason for you to push yourself to the maximum of your potential. Your kids will thank you later. One of the best pieces of advice that I can give that has worked for me, is to find yourself a support system. You may need a good friend to take your kids to the park while you finish that report or a sister or aunt who can help you with taking the kids to doctor’s visits. If you’re like me, and you don’t have a lot of family around, check out websites like care.com to find sitters who are more than willing to help you with errands or to just get a breather.

The main thing is to never give up on your dreams. You really can have them both. You and your children are well worth the struggle and trust me, it does get better.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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When Saying Goodbye Is Hard, But Necessary

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What do we do when saying goodbye to that thing that is no longer serving us is hard, but necessary for our progress? I use the word thing, but it could actually be a person, a job, a habit, a location etc… that needs to be in our rear view mirror. Why don’t’ we listen immediately to that still small voice that tells us it’s time? I was just telling someone recently, that for me it often takes me getting to a point where I’m down right miserable in the situation and so have no choice but to finally listen to that inner voice.

I believe that the still small voice that whispers to us is God’s spirit speaking to ours. Maybe our uncertainty in being able to fully discern God’s voice from our own or others is what keeps us from moving immediately. It can be extremely difficult to let go of something that we love or are comfortable with, even if it’s no longer good for us. Maybe it’s the dreaded, fear rearing its ugly head and putting its two cents in. Either way, when things become unbearable it forces us into action like a ninja racing into battle.

What does it take for you? Are you hardheaded like me and so have to be made miserable before you truly listen, or is there something else that is your motivator? What things keep you from listening to the voice from within that whispers, it’s time to say goodbye?  Is it fear or uncertainty, or is there something else that keeps you frozen in place when it’s time to say goodbye to the old and move on to something better?

I’d love to hear your comments and stories about a time when you had a hard time saying goodbye to something, even though you knew deep inside it was time. What caused you to hold on and what finally motivated you to move forward?

 

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