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In The Midst Of My Tears- The Poem

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Sometimes life weighs me down,

And I lie awake at night and cry.

Often the things that I seek

Seem out of reach

And I wonder how I’ll get by.

But, in the midst of my tears Lord,

I call your name and suddenly

Things don’t seem the same.

The burdens of life don’t weight as much

And the things I seek

Don’t seem so out of touch.

 

When my friends let me down,

I cried and wondered why,

Because I thought they would always care

But when I looked for them in my worst hour,

I found no one there.

Never had I felt so alone

But in the midst of my tears Lord,

I remembered that you were my friend,

And the loneliness was gone.

 

When my family bond was weakening,

And it seemed harder to hold together each day.

I struggled within myself

Trying not to let it go astray.

But in the midst of my tears Lord,

I thought of you,

And how you’d died for our sin,

And I was reminded

That some heartache is worth bearing

And I knew that my troubles would end.

 

And now in the face of hard times,

Although I may cry,

I still stand strong as I wait patiently on You,

Knowing that the hard times will soon pass me by.

I know that I can trust in You

To wipe away my fears,

And I know that I can call on You,

Even in the midst of my tears!

 

By Diathe Garnes

From Poetry Collection, Words from the Heart

 

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Are You Pursuing Your Purpose or Is Your Purpose Pursuing You?

MANHATTANAre you pursuing your purpose or running away from it? I used to tell myself that I was pursuing my purpose. I felt sure of it. I also told myself that I could not pursue my purpose without depending on things (9-5, no-good ex, no-good friends) that kept me stressed out, depressed and feeling as if the very purpose that I was supposedly pursuing was impossible to achieve.  I was left stuck in a repetitive cycle of simply surviving day-after-day and  believed that I would remain stuck in it for the rest of my life. I was miserable inside my own head with the thoughts of living this way until I was too old to change it, but at the time, I didn’t exactly know a way out of it. I would work all day and go home too tired to do more than make a feeble attempt at working on what I felt was my purpose. My purpose had been reduced to a side gig, then to a side hustle and was quickly reaching odd job status. I was simply going through the motions but had honestly nearly given up on ever actually realizing anything close to what I felt was my purpose.

But, the strange thing was that, although I had nearly given up on it, my purpose hadn’t even thought about giving up on me. At night, in my dreams, during moments of mindless daydreaming and while I was driving it showed up. During just about every action where I let my guard down and allowed my spirit to simply create without the interjection of my negative thoughts, my purpose showed up. It presented itself as flashes of what could be, actions that should be taken or a little voice urging me not to give up. Sometimes I’d listen to it and other times I wouldn’t but, it was pursuing me and I was terrified of it.

Looking back, I can see how my purpose, would try desperately to remove things that should not have been in my life and I see how I would fight tooth and nail to keep them. Now, I can see how it tried to put me on the right path towards it by keeping certain things from me that would have distracted me further. But, instead of being grateful, understanding and attentive, I would still allow my own self-pity over what I felt had been lost, taken or denied to distract me and pull me off course. I was still running away from my purpose. I now see that I was honestly too terrified to truly chase it. I was afraid that if I pursued what was in my heart, I’d fail and be I’d be broke and broken and so, it was easier to work to help someone else build their dreams than it was to build my own.

Purpose… guided by a power that is omnipotent, omnipresent and so much bigger than our thoughts or the minuscule things that we allow to distract us… pursues us even when we have lost the faith to pursue it. The good news is that once we discover that we are being pursued, we can choose to stop running. We can also choose to stop pursuing, but not because we are giving up, but rather because we begin to just allow our purpose to be. When we are honest with ourselves about what we want and about our unhappiness about how things are, we can begin to truly be ourselves. When you are who you’re meant to be, your purpose will instinctively find you because you were always meant to be one with it. So, I ask you again, are you pursuing your purpose or is it pursuing you?

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8 Bad Habits That Destroy Your Creativity | Inc.com

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To live a creative life, you must be able to destroy your habits that are killing your creativity.

If you think some people are born creative and you’re not one of them, think again.What makes some people more creative than others is that they nurture their creativity. In fact, experts say that creativity is primarily a learned skill. And like any other skill you want to learn, it requires that you put in some hard work and effort.It’s not enough to just want to be creative–it takes daily dedication to push yourself into original thoughts and expressive ideas. Too often, though, the biggest thing standing in the way may be your own habits.Here eight of the worst creativity killers. If you recognize them in your life, cut them out now…

 

Read Full Article At Original Source: 8 Bad Habits That Destroy Your Creativity | Inc.com

By Lolly Daskal

President and CEO, Lead From Within

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5 ways to love someone who is acting unlovable | Dave Willis

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“We all can be hard to love sometimes, but I’ve found that people usually need love the most in those moments when they “deserve” love the least. This true story below changed my life and my thinking about love and I believe it could do the same for you.

My Aunt Laurie is one of the most lovable people you’ll ever meet. She has a contagious joy and her laughter fills the room from the moment she walks in the door. Even now, as I’m writing these words and thinking about her, I’m smiling. To know her is to love her, but she wasn’t always so lovable. In fact, there was a very dark time in her life when she was unrecognizable from the warm and joyful person she is today…”

-Dave Willis

 

Read the full article at the original Source: 5 ways to love someone who is acting unlovable

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11 Foolproof Ways to (Nicely) End a Conversation | Inc.com

“You’ve just had a really interesting conversation with a potential colleague, friend, or customer. Or maybe you’ve had a chat that was a tedious waste of your time. Either way, the conversation is done and you would like to move on — but you don’t want to seem rude or uninterested. What do you do?It is possible to terminate a conversation gracefully, says Morag Barrett, an HR consultant, leadership coach and author of Cultivate: The Power of Winning Relationships. Yesterday, I shared Barrett’s tips for starting a networking conversation. Here are her tips for ending one politely:”

BY MINDA ZETLIN

Co-author, ‘The Geek Gap’

Read the Full Article at the Original Source: 11 Foolproof Ways to (Nicely) End a Conversation | Inc.com

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6 Foolproof Ways to Start a Networking Conversation With Absolutely Anyone | Inc.com

“You’re at a conference, a cocktail party, or even an airport departure area. You see someone across the room who could be a potential employer, customer, mentor, connection to other opportunities, or source of valuable information. You need to find a way to talk to whomever it is. What do you do? Starting a conversation from scratch is never easy, but it can be done, according to Morag Barrett, an HR consultant, leadership coach, and the author of Cultivate: The Power of Winning Relationships. “Relationships are built one conversation at a time,” she says. “You can’t afford to be a wallflower. Take a deep breath. Your success depends on your ability to start the conversation.”Once you’ve taken that deep breath, what do you say? Here are some of Barrett’s guaranteed openers to get you talking with anyone you want:”

BY MINDA ZETLIN Co-author, ‘The Geek Gap’

Read the Full Article at the Original Source: 6 Foolproof Ways to Start a Networking Conversation With Absolutely Anyone | Inc.com

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Creating a Positive Environment Around Negative People

 

Negative people are everywhere. There’s just no getting away from them, no matter how hard we try. They exist at the places we go to make money and the places we go to spend money. They, unfortunately, can even exist in our very own homes and families. How do you know negative people are around?

Here are some signs that a person is negative:

  1. They are angry a lot.
  2. They seem to enjoy verbal or physical altercations.
  3. The seem unhappy more than they seem happy.
  4. When they are unhappy they want others to be.
  5. They enjoy seeing others involved in drama.
  6. They instigate and encourage others to be upset.
  7. They are rude.
  8. They rarely like those who are different than them.
  9. They are easily intimidated by those they see as superior.
  10. They find it difficult to give compliments or say thank you.

If you know someone who exhibits one or more of these signs they are more than likely negative and should be treated with carefully. Instead of the old adage, “if you can’t beat them join them,” as it relates to these negative people, we must adopt a new motto to live by. Often, we try to change the people around us, and when these people are already prone to negativity, this can be a recipe for disaster. Instead, we should be the change that we want to create, or in other words, “be such a brilliant example of the light that the darkness has no place around you.”

When you are committed to keeping your environment positive, eventually negative people will have only two options. They can either adopt a more positive attitude and remain in your space or they can remain negative and remove themselves from the positive space. I’m a firm believer that good will always trump over evil, and positivity can always beat out negativity. But, more often than not, when there is a situation where a positive person is surrounded by negative people, it is the positive person who ends up either leaving or conforming. This is usually the result of frustration, anger or a lack of a true knowledge of the power of self-positivity.

There are some cases when the negative person may be in a position of authority or power. This situation may make it feel as if creating a positive environment is impossible and honestly, it may be. In cases such as these, especially in cases where there is the possibility of emotional, mental or even physical harm, getting out may be the only means of creating a more positive environment. The bottom line is, every person is entitled to live in a positive environment. If you are constantly around negative people, it’s up to you to make the necessary changes to create a more positive environment.

Here are some tips that will help:

  1. Remember your values and be steadfast in them.
  2. Don’t allow their negativity to make you retaliate against them with the same behavior.
  3. Keep your environment, (home, office, even yourself) decorated and full of scents that enhance positivity. I once heard a man say that it was hard to be angry around a woman who smells good. (It’s worth a try).
  4. Don’t allow them to encourage you to behave like them.
  5. Keep positive music, or words (scriptures, quotes) close at hand so that you can refill your positivity tank throughout the day if needed.
  6. Even though you know that negative people are actually demonstrating weaknesses and insecurities, don’t use this knowledge as an opportunity to degrade them.
  7. Make it known that you do not accept negativity in your space.
  8. If there is ever a physical, mental or emotional threat to your well-being, remove yourself from the situation.

 

– Diathe Garnes

 

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Thoughts = Power: Do Yours Make You Feel Powerful or Powerless?

Thoughts (1)Here’s what I like to call a “maybe” story that could end with two thoughts. A “maybe” story is one that maybe happened or could happen to you or to me and based on how we choose to think during this moment, we define how and who we will be.

Maybe you’re having a bad day and you don’t mind telling anyone who cares to listen. As you drive along in your car, complaining to  your bestie or your boy on your IPhone (via Bluetooth of course), you see a young man walking in the rain, soaking wet and looking very cold.  You drive on a little further and complain a little more. Soon you see a young woman who appears to be homeless, sitting on the sidewalk outside the convenience store you frequent.  You notice that it’s raining even harder than before.

You think to yourself, if they could be anywhere else, I bet they would be. And, here I sit, nice and dry in a car that I am blessed to have and I have never had the misfortune of having to walk or sit alone in the rain. You hang up with your friend. Complaining just doesn’t seem as useful as it had a few moments earlier; instead, you say a silent prayer for both strangers and one of gratitude for your blessings. You actually feel empowered to change your situation.

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You think to yourself, they don’t know how easy they have it. They don’t have half the problems I do. Because they have never worked hard to get anywhere or have anything, they have nothing to lose. If they would have tried a little harder, maybe they could have accomplished something…Then, they would know true pain, like the pain I’m going through right now. You roll your eyes at the person sitting in the rain as you pass by and you keep complaining to your friend. You feel even more miserable and powerless than before.

We are all works in progress. Which thought would be more like you currently on your worst day? If you would respond more negatively, why and what do you think could help you change your outlook? If the old you would have responded more negatively, what made you change? Leave a comment.

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Staying True to Yourself in a World Where Following the Latest Trend is In

Woman in Blue (1)Everywhere we look there is a new fad to follow. This is no longer a fact of life that’s reserved for teenagers and young adults. Because of the popularity of social media, this is now a fact of life for adults and business owners around the world.

It is very tempting to believe everything that you see on social media. According to social media, everyone from your ex-cousin-in-law to the guy who bullied you in the fifth grade has a successful, almost perfect life and every business owner you see is raking in the dough because their business is just that awesome.

So, what do you do? You try to imitate what you see or, at least, give the appearance of doing so. I’m not talking about the creepy, stalker imitation that we see in the movies – which requires one to have some major crazy genes floating around in their gene pool. I’m talking about trying to model your business or your life after others because you perceive it to be an easy or sure fire way to success and happiness.

As a little girl, like most little girls, I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do with my life. One month I wanted to train horses, the next I wanted to train dolphins or be an oceanographer (probably not a good idea when you’re terrified of water). But, as I got older, probably around the age of 10, there were two things that I knew.

  1. I wanted to write.
  2. I wanted to help others.

Around that time, I wrote in my journal that I wanted to be a psychologist so I could help people understand themselves. Well, life didn’t take me down that path, but that desire in me never went away. So, a few years ago when I decided to become a life coach, I was only tapping into that same desire to help people that started long ago. It’s simply a part of who I am and although I had never really heard of a life coach back then, after researching it, I knew it was right for me.

After getting certified as a life coach, I decided I wanted more than a certification, so I decided to get a Master’s Degree that focused on life coaching skills because I wanted to be the best at what I was doing. When I felt finally ready to leap out there and start helping people, I realized that everyone was doing the same thing. On social media, everyone was a coach. And, even though I had all the training and education that I needed to do it my way, before you know it, I was pulled into the soiree of doing things just like everyone else. Thank God I realized the error of my actions.

It didn’t take me long to remember that God gave me gifts and talents that are not like anyone else’s, just as he gave each of us unique talents. Along with our gifts and talents, we have been given the ability to use them in our own unique way. This is why trying to be like someone else usually doesn’t end well.  Doing so is virtually impossible to sustain.

It’s perfectly okay to do things in a way that has never been done before. It’s okay to write a new manual on how to get that thing done that only you can do. Others will follow you and maybe they’ll tweak your manual and add their own twists. To me, this is the natural flow of things. There is enough success to go around for all of us. But we can only get there on our own unique path. Modeling your life after someone else’s will lead to disappointment and you undoubtedly will miss out on experiences and opportunities that were meant for only you to have.

Do yourself a favor, ignore the latest trends and instead, be a trendsetter. Be yourself no matter what anyone else thinks of it and no matter how quirky or corny it may seem to others.  And, don’t do it so that you will have adoring followers who want to be just like you. Set the trend for breaking trends so that those who have the pleasure of coming across your path will know that it is okay for them to do the same. I truly believe that you can only truly give your very best to the world when it truly is your best and not someone else’s that’s been imitated. Be true to yourself –  ­and the rest will follow. Contact me for a coaching service if you need help getting in touch with your true self.

 

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5 Ways to Cure the Monday Blues

ID-100235784Monday is such a fun day! Say it with me, “Monday, Monday, Monday!” If you don’t agree, then you’re doing Monday all wrong. We’ve all felt those negative emotions known as the “Monday Blues” that are associated with starting another work week. But, if you’re like me and you want the blues associated with the first day of the work week to be a thing of the past, here are 5 ways to conquer the dreaded “Monday Blues.”

  1. Get the truth of the matter: If you start feeling the Monday Blues coming on, dig down deep and ask yourself what is really the reason you are feeling down. Are you tired? Are you sick? Are you sick and tired? Are you not ready for the workload that is waiting for you at the office? Do you need a vacation? Once you’re able to address the actual reason that you’re feeling down, you can address it head on. If you’re sick, stop and get some medicine on your way to the office or maybe it’s a day where you need to call in and sleep late. If you’re tired, give yourself something to look forward to by planning for a quick lunch time nap in your car. If your workload is too heavy, maybe it’s time to ask for help.
  1. Prepare for Monday in advance: Before you leave work on Friday, do as much work as possible so that you’ll start Monday ahead and not behind. Leave your workspace tidy and organized so that you won’t feel the need to tidy up on Monday morning. Also, prepare work clothes, school clothes for the kids and lunches for everyone on Sunday. Give yourself a great head start on Monday morning.
  1. Fill your mind and ears with positive things: If you usually see Nancy the negative nelly at the water cooler, avoid her at all cost. Try to only listen and think on positive things. Play your favorite motivational song or speech and make an effort to only talk about positive things.
  1. Wear your Monday best: Dress in one of your favorite outfits. Looking good will automatically make you feel better.
  1. Do something you love after work: Create a Monday night tradition. For instance, make Monday the night you cook your family’s favorite meal or catch up on all your favorite shows. Have as much to look forward to on Monday as possible and remove many of the negative associations you have with the day. Before you know it, Monday will be one of your favorite days of the entire week!

Bonus: Consider Monday as the beginning of a week in which you will accomplish some amazing things in your life, business and relationships. It’s all in how you look at it! Here’s to hoping for nothing but Happy Monday’s for the rest of your life! : )

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